non-Jewish people going on today about “reclaiming” Anne Frank as a “bi icon” or w/e make me really uncomfortable, because it has this ring of “all this time I thought she was just some Jewish kid, but now it turns out she’s one of us!!!!” like if you didn’t find Anne Frank’s story moving until you realized she shared some marker with you then maybe you should reconsider your whole approach to this whole “empathy” thing.
CONSENT TO SEX IS CONSENT TO PREGNANCY
If you’re a gay man, that’s taken as a given, and taken for granted. Nothing makes you not a gay man. If you were married to a woman and no longer are, it just means you were closeted. And if you’re actually bisexual, you’re suspected of actually being gay. Not a common occurrence obviously but if you end up sleeping with one woman for whatever reason, people will assume you were drunk or something and it was a blip in your otherwise gay history.
If you’re a lesbian, you’re subject to a degree of ideological, political, and personal purity that gay men are never subject to. If there were one or twenty men in your past, it calls your lesbianism into doubt, but so do fifty other things that have even less to do with one’s sexual orientation… from what you eat to how you dress to your musical tastes. If you’re a 15 year old baby dyke your lesbianism is in question but if you’re a 40 year old divorcee it’s also in question and it may even be in question if you’re an exclusive lifelong lesbian for millions of reasons that have zero to do with your actual sexual behavior.
Gay manhood is an inherent sexual orientation but lesbianism is basically constructed as a political entity, lifestyle choice, and social subculture, akin with veganism or being a punk/hipster/goth.
When gay men fall outside their social norm, their gayness itself isn’t what’s questioned, because gay manhood is immutable. They may not be ideal or acceptable gay men, but they’re still understood to be gay men by both gays and straights.